Why live in relationship shouldn't be encouraged in india..My view
The difference between a marraige and livein relationship is
Marraige comes with social and legal obligations whereas a livein relationship doesn't have any such stings attached.
Why marrraige has Social obligations: Lets take Social first, How it started...There was no marraige at that time. People had no relationships. There were no families. Any one can live with any one and can bring offsprings with anyone. Now , what was the problem, no one knows who belongs to whom, where to stay, who should take care of who etc and there was no direction and coherence among people as relationships were not in order. This formed the need for marriage(nothing but an oath that we live together till end of life and telling to society that we two belong to each other) and with that to bring some order in society so that the race survives and harmony exists in society. There formed families then after with a wife and a man and their kids..and we have the society now with family being a single entity. Now the concept of marraige which formed the basis for families got along with it some complexities. They are, 'why should i live with same person when i dont like that person , Why should i be forced to do things for other person which i dont like.' Then formed the concept of divorce to say, this person no more belongs to me. Everything is fine so far ,with marraige and divorce being two terms used to determine the status of relationship between a man and woman. That's how families were started and a family based society which have in India today had formed. So, marraige has this social obligation of maintaining families.
Why marraige has Legal obligations :Every relationship involves a give-take policy. Both have to work to maintain and the relationship. Both share the income and outgoing that is part of relationship. But as humans are selfish in nature, some one in the relation ship started dominating the other partner. Simply putting one partner is exploiting the other partner during their course of relationship. So, when they seperate, one person is at loss and the other is at a gain, which is unfair. A classic case being, husband working outside and earning salary and wife working in home and taking care of home. Now while splitting husband says , you have no right on my salary as i have earned it on my own and wife says i have also worked to maintain our family, so i should also get part of it. So the legal things came into picture to settle this with so called alimony.
This shows that, even though there was no legal interference when marraige was started, it had to intervene later to counter the human selfishness and inequalities between partners.
Why social obligations cannot be removed in relationship: In involves removing family culture. It has again two angles to removing it
The social part: There is no harmony and coherence in society with no family culture.
The economic part: In India, people dont believe strangers. People dont believe government. Say if you are ill, do you expect the government to take care of you or you expect your family to take care of you. Whom do you rely most. Are your rights properly protected by your government. Does you governments makes sure you survive. The answer is NO. You depend on your family and you rely on your family. Where as in developed countries the goverment takes care of your survival. You rely on govt than your parents.Infact children leave their parents at age of 14-15. Why, they know they can get jobs , they know govt will take care of them even if no jobs. But it all doesn't work in india and it takes a lot of time to get into that mode. So till that time, families are the important part of our society. We have to make sure to protect them. And thats why family culture and values are to be protected equally as individual rights.
Why legal obligations cannot be removed in relationship:
In India the rights are not equally PROTECTED there between man and woman. Whereas in western countries So, there is no question of forcing something on other in a relationship. So no party is at loss in a relationship, so no legal intervention is needed there. But in india, as long as the exploitation continues in a relationship legal obligations must exist in a relationship to proctect the parties.
So, until the above problems are solved, both the social and legal obligations cannot be removed in marraige and hence things like livein relationship and prostitution which doesn't hold the above obligations cannot be made legal.
